Why Do We Resist Getting Help?

Why do we avoid getting help?

Change is difficult. Change is perceived as difficult. The barriers WE create for change are endless; I already have so much to do. I have deadlines, dinner, distractions. I’m tired. I’m fine. I’ll do it eventually. I have read so many books, so many quotes. I already know what I should be doing.I really don’t want to look at all the things I need to transform. That is painful. Maybe I’ll just have a drink/hit. And worst of all, a voice may whisper: “You don’t deserve to have a life coach...Who will be with the kids? How long will it take? How much will it cost? What will you have to sacrifice? You should just be stronger"

It has always been difficult for me to spend money on myself. I couldn’t buy something only for me at the grocery store. I couldn’t make a birthday wish list. I resisted finding childcare so I could be with adults for a little while. In order to commit to personal transformation I would need childcare and money spent just on me and a dedication to the “homework” from my coaching sessions. I needed to be ready for change.

But once I stepped into a relationship with my art therapist, my life coach...I was reminded of who I truly am.

Of who I have always been.

Of who I most want to be.

I felt strengthened and supported.

Awake.

Full of light. Not because of her. Because of me. Because I decided to create newness within myself. To commit to myself. To cast light on my own shortcomings and allow vulnerability and discomfort long enough to release them. I asked for someone to stand with me and hold space for my evolving transformation. I had certainly not been doing that on my own no matter how much information I had about how to do it.

We need another human being to be an advocate. We deserve to be listened to. Our partners and children and parents and colleagues deserve to have the best parts of us show up for them.

You are brave. You are important. You are deserving. You are loving. Your capacities to love those around you are growing.

In my practice, Opening to Truth Life Coaching, I support you by listening to what you need, and guiding you to more fully experience your Divine Truth. You become empowered to live more expansively, to be tender with yourself and others, to ask for what you need when you need it.